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On May 15-19, 48 graduates of Chapel Hill's Men's Life program traveled to Tijuana, Mexico to build houses for the poor. It was the largest adult mission team ever sent by this congregation. In the face of blistering heat we completed five houses in 2½ days and in the process men's lives were transformed. Listen to the men describe their experience in their own words.


I was overwhelmed as I looked around me and took it all in…being in the midst of so many Christian men all working together for the good of others... all of them putting forth 100% of their efforts in the heat, sleeping in tents, make-shift showers, etc. It wasn't about us, it was about them. Seeing the joy on the families’ faces was, for me, what this was all about. I'm not a real big "circle-time, churchy-feely-guy," but I actually opened my mouth and sang with real words and sound as we gathered each evening. Mark's messages were so right-on. I was touched by the concern the other teams showed one another. Every time I turned around, someone from another group was helping out a team that needed assistance. I left Gig Harbor on Thursday evening a little nervous. Now I can't wait to do it again. —Michael Stephens


Watching the family we served do life together was valuable. They were home and around together, coming and going in each other's lives. We need to have those same relationships with our family, whether our real family or our church family. I think of our Mexico family often, but I don't feel sorry for them. I have a tremendous respect for how they live and for the relationships they have with one another. They take pride in WHO they are, not WHAT they have.

I've spent most of my 42 years on this planet trying to get 'free' by obtaining 'more'—by being independent financially and having enough toys to be continually distracted from the hole inside. During my quest I have been rich, and I have been on the verge of bankruptcy, I have been on top professionally, and I have lost my own businesses twice. I know the pain of loss and the falseness of greed, and I have seen the damage I have inflicted on those I love because of my selfishness.

This trip was a milepost for me. After two years of serious financial struggle and daily uncertainty, and seeing my Heavenly Father quietly come through for us time and time againafter two years we are past the crisis and there is light at the end of the tunnel. To be able to take 5 days to serve, to do nothing but give to others I did not know, that was a personal milepost.

This trip reinforced that happiness is not tied to stuff. Happiness is not the goal at all. The goal is merely to let go and trust. To give the reins to our Fatherperhaps that is the real lesson I let go of everything for 4 days. No email, no thoughts of financial woes, no cell phone, just time to give and to do. Under it all I realize God has been teaching me to be content, to see everything we have and remind me that to whom much is given, much is expected.

God snuck up on me with contentment. I thought this trip would be about proving myself physically, about learning that I can do all things through God who strengthens meof hopefully making some friends, of being a generous gringo. As it turned out He wanted to get me to a quiet place to hear and see what He has been teaching me. Even as I spent the third day sick and on my back, watching my new brothers push through to the end, I didn't have that haunting lie of failure lingering in the background, I found a peace – 'In quietness and confidence shall be your strength' means something to me now.

I am grateful to my Father for giving me this time and experience with my brothers, for the gift of a wife who exhibits patience and love far beyond the call of duty. Who has stuck with me for 20 years and who can count the many ups and downs. Who gave me the time to go and do this thing. I will go back, be it to Mexico or some other place that God leads, but I will go back. And in the meantime, I hope to be more focused on giving more of myself, serving more and loving more, while embracing this new realization of contentment.Dean Anderson


I have a strong recollection of Martha Sandoval, the mother and grandmother of the nine-member extended family who lived in the two-room house that our team added onto during the Men’s Life Mexico Build. She was clearly the matriarch and leader of that family group. The kids obviously adored her. She pitched in with the work carrying buckets of concrete mix. On a personal note, Martha gave me a bottle of cold water out of her family’s supply, true refreshment in the heat of mid-day. On the last day she provided lunch and insisted that we all eat in the new rooms we’d built. I was greatly blessed to be in fellowship in a band of Christian brothers working together, supporting one another, and having fun together. Blessed to be a blessing! —Bob DeLaney

Extreme Weather…37 who guys had never been on a mission trip before and did not know what to expect…less than 3 full days…and all the teams had difficult site locations and/or had to change the house plans.

It is simply unbelievable that we finished. The Lord’s hand is really the only explanation. It nearly brings me to tears to see how these guys came together in such a big way, to give these families homes. It is a testimony to what is possible when we allow God to work in us. I feel blessed to be a witness and to be a part of it. The experience was far more rewarding than I had imagined. Thank you. –Lee Dietz


It is amazing how God puts 10 men with different spiritual maturity levels together and uses them as a tool to do great things. As we came from diverse backgrounds…we became EQUAL instantaneously without any effort. This is a testament that He can do anything.

This Men’s Life experience was powerful, but it would be MEANINGLESS if we did not follow up. In our thoughts and prayers we MUST revisit the families we built the homes for and the men we worked alongside of.

Organize a small group and fellowship with your team members. IGNITE others to take the leap and do a mission trip. These are my plans which I will EXECUTE.

The only scary thing is how easy it was to assimilate into my cushy and abundant life in Gig Harbor, USA. –Gabor Klade


The most powerful part of my experience in Mexico was of course the key ceremony and seeing the look of joy on the faces of our family whom received the home. In a close second place though I can't say enough about the band of Christian brothers who went down there and pulled together to make this all happen and I praise the Lord for every one of them. —Mark Berry


The best part of the whole trip was seeing the expression of gratitude on the faces of the family while we were building the house and then at the key ceremony. Also, it was awesome to see how God was working through our team giving us the strength we needed through the heat and keeping our attitudes positive, never grumbling. It had to be God! It was a great experience and I look forward to the opportunity of helping another family next year. Thanks Mark for your terrific leadership. —Tom Gray


The Mexico Build offered the men a chance to fellowship and work together on a project to serve those in need. It helped us focus on how others live with much less that we have and yet they can still experience the joy of receiving new living areas. The focus on serving and giving is a testimony of what God wants us to do in Gig Harbor and in all mission areas that we are called to serve. —Evan Steensland


I’m so very thankful that God opened this door for me through the help of others. I’ve had opportunities to lead worship at Chapel Hill for Sunday worship, for high school, for day camp, and even to the women at the Purdy prison. The thought of leading a group of men was both an honor and, at first a little intimidating. As a worship leader, you never know what to expect with men. But God is good. His spirit moved through our group in powerful ways during our work times, our meal times, our play times, and yes even our worship. I cannot thank those who made it possible for me to go enough. God bless you! —Jason Lillie


I tried to learn some Spanish before I went to Mexico, but once in Mexico I discovered how little I had actually learned. However, the mother of our family also knew a small amount of English so she was very gracious and we were able to communicate a little bit. She appreciated my attempts as much as I appreciated her attempts at communication. She has a son, Christian that was about 8 who was a little bit of a menace, I enjoyed him because he was always under my feet poking me and teasing which I also returned.

One day Christian was teasing me and his mother thought he was getting a bit too rowdy so she told him to do something. I didn’t understand what, but it was in the “casa” and he replied, “no”. She quickly responded with, “Uno, dos, tres” and that boy hopped up and headed into the house. It was very clear at that point we all knew exactly what she was saying, since our own mothers have probably said the same thing to each of us. It doesn’t matter where we are or what language we speak, we are all pretty much the same inside.
—Dave Wasserburger


This was my first mission trip. I had a lot of fear and apprehension about whether God was calling me into this role. Along the way, I had a hundred reasons to give up and leave this work to someone else. I had one reason to go, obedience. It was a struggle for me to obey what the Spirit called me to do, but He never gave up on me.

It was a great honor to for me to build this home with the men of Chapel Hill. As I worked with these men and had fellowship with them, I found a several biblical principles at work. The first principle I discovered was as I worked at building a house, God was working on building me. For He who began a good work in me will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.

The second principle I discovered was I needed to develop strong relationships with the men at Chapel Hill; as iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another. All the men who went on this trip worked very hard to build these homes. For me, the trip was highlighted at the key ceremony. I wish I could describe this event in words. I pray that this is just the first Men’s Life mission trip. I am looking forward to next year and working with my team again. I want to continue to build the relationships I made and serve the LORD with this great group of men. —Mark Curneen


As I reflect on the trip there were several aspects which stick out:

#1 What an odd experience working with a group of men who continually bent over backwards on the job site to make sure they were doing their share of the work. Each of us was trying to "out do" each other in trying to serve others! I never heard anyone "whining" the whole trip. Just a great attitude the whole trip.

#2 I had an odd feeling sweep over me as I ran up our stairs at home the first night we were back. Our stairs were wide, carpeted and clean with nicely painted walls. I then went into our kids bedrooms and saw two large clean rooms with beds and toys all around. It was a little over twenty-four hours since we had seen our [Mexican] families, and I couldn't forget the contrast between our home and the conditions those families live in.

#3 The infrastructure in the US was so different from that of Tijuana, Mexico. The streets here are swept, people don't burn their garbage in their yard and buildings here are finished - not left unfinished so they don't have to pay the taxes.

#4 The Mexicans have a strong sense of family and community. They spend a lot of time together. —Phil Hayden


Every man should experience this trip. Although the conditions were not what many of us are used to, that didn't matter and paled in contrast to the satisfaction of accomplishment along side of other brothers striving to a common goal. The sweat of our brows from exertion and heat to every sore muscle inventoried at bedtime lessened upon reflection of the days accomplishments and the penetrating scriptures studied during our devotional. This was a complete experience and more. I have seen a side to the character of the men I never could have experienced in the foyer of the church and look forward to building on the new friendships and straining with you toward what is ahead. Philippians 1:3-6 takes on a whole new meaning.
—Steven Tyson


The joy and trust you see in the children who have so little yet are willing to give so much.
—Jerome Walen


I have always believed that the house is the byproduct, that the Lord has to give you something to keep your hands busy so he can speak to your heart and teach you more about what life is really all about. The heat was tough but it reminded us to keep checking on team members and gave us a "common enemy". It was great. —Rob Taylor


I knew my limitations in heat, for every hour I work I need an hour down and that is not in heat like this. The heat was oppressive and it took a toll immediately. Not one guy complained but I could see with the digging ahead we needed help. We had prepared the way with prayer and I knew the warriors at home were sending arrows.

The first man that was hit was hit pretty hard. I laid hands on him and asked for God to restore him. Within a few minutes Rob was working again. That first day was the worst for me. I sat down at around 2:30 and my head was pounding, my heart rate was well over 180. My extreme workouts hit 170 and I never feel it in my head and ears. But god kept healing us.

I could have never recovered at home on my own strength like that within 30 minutes I was carrying 100lbs of concrete and buckets full of sand for hours. We gathered as a group many times and came against the heat. We reminded ourselves that God does not do incomplete work, and to all of our surprise we finished on the third day. Praise God and the men who follow him into battle. I know we went to build a house, but I think all of our faith grew.

I loved the connection I made with my sister in Christ and her family and neighbors. God gave us a chance to see how we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us. I believe it... —Mike Freimann


The trip made me closer to new friends, helped me understand families and their importance in all cultures. Clarified that material items and our culture's desire for them, needs to be re-thought and re-evaluated.

Americans (we) seem to be motivated by acquiring more thing, better vacations, status etc. however we need to be motivated to help others and work on our relationships with each other: Friends, family and other cultures. —Dave Fisher


This was a real eye opener—to see what we think is poverty, waste, dirt, trash ( the waste,dirt and trash is for real). But to see the smiles, appreciation and hope on the faces of the families is a picture that will be instilled in my mind forever. It was tough coming back to the NW and not being negative to people that did not seem appreciative. But you can't put your experience on others. The message that being humble and giving back was instilled even further during this trip,.. I will be signing up for the next, thanks for all of your hard work. —Mike Kuna


This was my first mission trip. I can’t say it was a life changing experience, because I believe that is an on-going process, although this was an important step along the journey. This build was so compressed, there wasn’t much time to think much beyond how can we get the home built on schedule and make the plane. I really enjoyed the Mexican people I met, the AMOR personnel and getting to know my teammates better. I’d do it again in a heart beat!!! —Myron Banwart


The most rewarding experiences of this trip was getting to know and working with Christian men of Chapel Hill. The presentation of the house keys to the family receiving the house was most touching. I’m thankful to have had the time to go and to give to the people of this community. This trip really made me feel thankful for my home and family. —Keith Koehn

I have been an avid hiker/camper over the years. At first camp seemed primitive and crude, until you compare it to what these Mexican families live in day in and day out. Camp all of a sudden became OK.

I have been a carpenter/general contractor for over 30 years. At first it was depressing to see what a simplistic shelter we were building them. However compared to what they have, it was a grand castle. I was humbled how hard physically it was, as well as working with the existing site conditions. Mostly the heat, but the amount of manual labor to produce everything. I missed my power tools, but bonded with my team members from it.

Lastly, the spiritual experience of working, living, studying the Bible with, and praying with this group enlightened and strengthened my spiritual path. Men can be strong, hard working, and tough; but also caring, loving, and strong in faith. I learned so much and realized I have so much to learn.

Thank God He is patient. Thank God for this opportunity. —Tom Metzdorf


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